I’m usually pretty “anti” anything trendy. As soon as everyone starts talking about the latest fad, I subconsiously resolve to never be apart of it. Like tattoos. And fake leather tights.
The first time I saw someone wearing those shiny, curve-hugging, garbage-bag material leggings, I opted out. O. U. T. I do not need to acentuate the curves of my bottom half any more than necessary. But even more than that, I just don’t want to do what everyone else is doing, just because they’re doing it. I have nothing against you ladies who can pull off pleather tights, but they are not for me.
I feel the same way about trends in homemaking and child-raising. When people start talking about the creative activities they do to entertain their children, the charts they have to complete all their housekeeping tasks, and their extensive meal planning/grocery shopping, something deep down inside of me revolts.
To be honest, I think it’s my insecurities rearing their ugly heads.
There’s something in me that wants to be the mom who comes up with fun ways to use lentils (for play and for meals!) but I’m just not. I’m the mom who defaults to letting my toddler watch Curious George all day (I don’t, but some days I’d like to). I’m the mom who doesn’t always brush my two and half year olds teeth and forgets to give my baby vitamin D everyday. And I’m the mom who makes chicken fingers and fries because I don’t have the time or energy to do anything fancy with kale.
But this week I decided that to resist a trend, simply because of my own insecurity and feeling like “I’m not that mom” is dumb. So as I was making my grocery list, I jotted down a few meal ideas, even cracked open my Kinfold Table cookbook and made a bit of a plan. And all week it’s been like food heaven. Lemon chicken with caprese crostinis, wilted beet green and italian sausage pasta, roasted beet and arugala salad, homemade pizza with chicken, bacon, mozzarella and peppers – HEAVEN!
The thing is we all feel a bit like we don’t measure up to that mom who rolls on the floor with her kids laughing, or that homemaker who washes her walls with baking soda and vinegar every Wednesday. But guess what? That person doesn’t exist. Yes, there are people who do those things, but they don’t do ALL THINGS. And you have your thing too. So do your thing. And if next week you feel like making a menu plan and grocery shopping in leather tights, I say go for it.
This month I’ll be teaching an online class about how to fight these feelings of comparison. It’s called “So you want to quit the internet”, but it’s really not about the internet. It’s about how to keep going when we want to quit – quit dreaming, quit pursuing God, quit trying to be a better parent, a better spouse because you feel you don’t measure up. My hope is that by sharing my story of quitting, and then getting back up to try again, the Lord will encourage you to do the same. Check it out here.