How Do You Know if You’re Done Having Kids?

Lately I’ve been asked this question a lot, “are you done having kids?” and I really don’t know how to answer. I love my two kiddies more than life itself. Cohen is the sweetest boy, who has recently started telling me how pretty I am and how proud he is of me (melt). And Claire is living up to her name more and more each day – she really is my bright light. So if my decision was based on how beautiful in every way our babies are, I’d have another one in a heartbeat. Heck, I’d have ten more.

But then there’s the fact that I just started sleeping through the night (most of the time).

And we could probably be done with diapers in the next 6 months…forever!

Not to mention that I cannot get excited about the idea of driving a minivan. Or having my kids share a room (how would any of us every get any sleep??)

And two just seems a whole lot easier (and cheaper) for all the travelling that we plan to do as a family. One kid for each parent. One hotel room. One less ticket at Disney World.

But then again, they really are so stinkin’ cute! Just check out these sweet one year photos with my baby girl, by the ever so talented Tasha Gregory.
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What about you? How do you know if you’re done or not? And if you were debating over having a third, what finally made the decision for you?

ps. Tuesday night I’m offering an online class on “How to Hear God’s Voice” all about cultivating a more intimate relationship with Jesus. I’d love to see you there.


3 thoughts on “How Do You Know if You’re Done Having Kids?

  1. I’m having this personal dilemma myself. I haven’t really discussed it with my husband yet, because our son is only 7 months old, so it’d be a year before we’d even think about it anyways… but I’d like to come to my own conclusion first before I even approached dh about it. I know if I decided if I was done, he’d be totally cool with that. But if I wanted one more, it may take some persuading…

  2. Ha, the question of my life!!! What finally got me was the 80-year-old woman who said, “I wish we’d had more. I wish I’d been willing to go through the extra work for a few short years, so that I could enjoy the blessing for the rest of my life.” I couldn’t shake that thought! All of our reasons for sticking to two were selfish, and we knew that no matter what, if there were a third sweet baby, we would love that baby no matter what, and never wish him/her away!

    Plus, it is absolutely amazing to KNOW that we’re done! I never knew before, and I love knowing, and being at peace with it, and not asking that question anymore! I feel wildly, excessively blessed!

    That doesn’t mean the whole world should have three, though! Totally understand the struggle that comes with trying to figure out what’s best for your own family!

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