Learning the Dance

I take life too seriously sometimes. 

Like this morning.  My hubby and I were bustling around getting ready for work, eating our Mini Wheats and trying to distract our crazy dog from barking her face off at every little thing that moved.  Fresh brewed coffee waited in the pot and before rushing out the door, he and I stood shoulder to shoulder pouring the liquid energy into our travel mugs. 

I bumped his mug with mine.  Coffee spilled on the counter.  He quickly wiped it up and I got upset because he used a tea towel. 

Let me repeat, “I bumped his mug“.  It was my mistake and he didn’t even flinch with annoyance or impatience. 

He wiped it up for me

And I got upset with him!


In a matter of seconds I felt the annoyance rise up in me and then I stopped.  I stopped and thought, “Does it really matter?  Is it really worth getting upset over?”

I apologized humbly and kissed him goodbye.  He looked over with a kind smile and wished me a good day.

In those moments when things go wrong, how do we react?  Do we allow the anger to rise up and take over, spilling out like hot coffee?  Or do we stop, take a breath and ask ourselves if it’s really worth being upset over. 

James offers amazing wisdom for those of us who tend to “cry over spilled milk”. 

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20

The Father is teaching us a dance…quick – slow, slow. 

Quick to listen.  Slow to speak.  Slow to become angry.

When the coffee spills and things don’t go the way you want, remember the steps the Father is teaching you and follow his lead.

Quick – slow, slow.

3 thoughts on “Learning the Dance

  1. Great post, Heather! Oh, this sounds so similar to the way things go in our house sometimes! Thanks for the good reminder to use words more carefully.

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