The other day I tweeted this: “Ever feel like you’re losing yourself in the role of wife or mother, friend or daughter? ‘Whoever loses his life for my sake, gains it.’ “ Lately God has been speaking to me about motherhood. And let me tell you, it hasn’t been easy to hear. It’s been one of those “daughter, sit yourself down and listen up” kinda conversations, where the Lord puts me in my place, with so much grace and love – but conviction as well.
After that tweet, a blogging friend of mine, 5ohWifey passed on this amazing article to me: Motherhood Is a Calling by Rachel Jankovic. Reading this article was so eye opening, encouraging and challenging, that I’ve decided to start a series on the Value of Motherhood entitled, “Mama, You Are Priceless!”
First of all I recognize that not all of my readers are mothers. Some of you are single women and may be mothers one day, and some of you will never be moms…well, because your dudes. However, this series could easily apply to fathers as well. And for all y’all (yes, I wish I was from the south and could say this all the time) who aren’t parents, and hope you never will be, this series will only be showing up every few weeks, so don’t fret.
Now back to the business at hand – motherhood, and the value of it. As much as I enjoy my role as mother, I’ve struggled with seeing the value of it spiritually. When I talk to my friends, especially those in full time ministry, I often feel inferior, as though my spiritual life is lacking compared to theirs because my days are filled with chasing around a toddler, rather than spending hours in prayer, fasting and studying the word. The reality is I barely squeeze in 5 or 10 minutes of these spiritual disciplines that used to be such a HUGE part of my everyday. And it makes me feel less than. Not because anyone else is doing or saying anything to make me feel that way, but because I have some deep seeded beliefs about motherhood that are just plain wrong.
In her article “Motherhood Is a Calling”, Jankovic says, “If you grew up in this culture, it is very hard to get a biblical perspective on motherhood, to think like a free Christian woman about your life, your children. How much have we listened to partial truths and half lies? Do we believe that we want children because there is some biological urge, or the phantom “baby itch”? Are we really in this because of cute little clothes and photo opportunities? Is motherhood a rock-bottom job for those who can’t do more, or those who are satisfied with drudgery? If so, what were we thinking?”
When I read this my spirit resounds with a “yes and amen!” That is why this series is being written – so that together we can gain a more godly, biblical perspective on the value of motherhood.
I so hope and pray that through studying for and writing these posts I can get a few things straight. And that you, my dear readers, will be inspired, encouraged and challenged to see yourself the way God sees you as both a mother, but more importantly, as HIS daughter.
Is this something you’ve ever struggled with? Have you written a post addressing this very topic? Please leave a comment with your experience, or a link to your post below. I’d love nothing more than to hear from you!