Seven years later I self published my second book and printed 1000 copies this time. My goal (though I never said it out loud) was to sell 10,000 copies in the first year. Since it launched on April 6th I’ve sold almost 800 copies, which in some way feels like a failure. I really hoped this book would take off and gain a momentum of its own, but so far that hasn’t happened.
Here’s the deal. Even though this book failed to become a best seller, or reach as many teen girls with it’s message as I hoped, this is not the end of my dream.
You know what kills dreams, my friend?
Quitting kills dreams. Not failing. Quitting.
Showing up and failing is still showing up. And as long as you’re willing to keep showing up, day after day after day, you are succeeding. As long as you are willing to say “yes” to His voice leading you toward the dreams He’s given you, you are winning.
So before you quit, ask yourself these 3 questions:
Am I showing up? As long as you’re still showing up every single day, you are winning. Showing up doesn’t mean you’re always happy about your circumstances, it just means you’re choosing to be present for all of it. The wins, the losses, and everything in between.
Are you following His voice? God never asked us to make our own success. Nor did He say that failure disqualified us from being used by Him. Quite the opposite in fact. He told us we would have trouble in this life, but He would guide us with His peace. So when all else fails, follow His voice and be led by peace.
What can you learn from your failure? Failure isn’t really failure if you learn from it – it’s just training. If you can learn from your failures and apply what you’ve learned moving forward, you can count that as a win.
Failure wants to tell us we’ve lost and we may as well quit. But the truth is as long as you don’t give up, you are winning. So keep showing up, my friend. Keep being present, following His voice, and learning from all the bumps along the way.
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